How to Overcome Regret
Regret overall is a terrible feelings because it implies that there was a fault in personal action. Research has narrowed regret down to two properties: inaction versus action.
The first major step in overcoming regret is to understand that we all make mistakes and that you are not alone. Hopefully the steps listed below will help you start to overcome the regret you’re feeling.
1. Let go of your past mistakes. Stop worrying about the things that you have no control over and cannot change. Forgive yourself, the situation and others and move on, accept where you now are.
2. If others have been wronged, ask for forgiveness and make amends. Forgiving yourself and others will put you in a better place.
3. Break the pattern of dwelling on past mistakes by concentrating on what’s happening in your life now. Eliminate the words “would have,” could have” and “should have” from your vocabulary.
4. Consider regret as an opportunity to learn. Face your mistakes and ask yourself what you could have done differently. Think about what causes you to do things that you regret and work on changing that behavior.
· Many people find clarity in writing about their regrets and what they’re truly feeling. Putting what you’re thinking into words can help you clarify what happened. Don’t focus on the exact details of what could’ve been different or changed. Writing down your emotions should help you move on to the present and not dwell on past mistakes
· Others find help through talking it out. Find someone you trust (a family member, a friend, even a counselor) and tell them about your situation or what happened. Hopefully hearing what others think will help you sort through your own feelings. Take their advice lightly but take advantage of the help they may be able to offer
It is extremely important that you do not simply brush of your regret. It can be a helpful tool that may be valuable in future situations. Figuring out the source of your regret but not modifying your behavior can possibly lead to repeated situations and feelings.
Accept, reflect and learn but do not dwell.